The first step to spotting one is to decide you will keep your eyes open, pay attention to the signals and believe what you see. Players get away with their actions because we let them and choose to disregard all the red flags they send up, so decide for yourself that you will spot him early in the relationship and you have won half the battle. Follow these tips for recognizing him, and as soon as you do, run the other way.

A player gives off lots of body language if you know what to look for. You know how guys look when they are out to pick up girls; the typical guy will puff up, stand up straight and strut his stuff with an open and honest air. Not so the player. He will roll his shoulders forward, strut with a swagger, and often roll his head to the side looking at the room sideways, at an angle. He will always check himself out in any mirror that is around.

If he has his eyes on your, he will often face you and stand with his legs wide open, sometimes with his thumbs looped in his front belt loops and his fingers splayed out pointing toward his package. He will often have a smirk on his face and a smile with rolled up lips. One big key to that smile is that his eyes are not smiling along with the rest of his face; there are no crinkled up smile lines around his eyes when his lips are smiling. This man is a deadly player, so pay attention to that

The player will often have on lots of jewelry, carry an expensive cell phone, and have his nails and toenails done. This man loves himself too much and there won't be any room for sincerely loving you. Sociologists have studied dating and mating behavior for decades, and the normal man out trying to meet girls for all the right reasons will have a particular body language code that signals he is a good guy. The player will not follow that code.